Is+everybody+doing+it?

...to consider reasons for and against having or delaying a sexual relationship ...ways of minimising risk and dealing with pressure in relationships3
 * Learning objectives:** Pupils should learn...

1. Ask the class to list reasons why two people might decide to have or delay having sex. (these should include reasons within or outside marriage or a committed relationship) Write each reason on a large sheet of paper. the following are example statement, but more could be added: Possible reasons for: Possible reasons against: 2. Place the pieces of paper around the room and ask pupil;s to stand next to one. groups standing by the same statement should discuss it and whether it is a strong reason for having or delaying sex, writing any comments or observations on the sheet of paper. Call 'time' after a few minutes and ask pupils to find another statement. When all statememnts have gained a reasonable number of comments, ask the pupil;s to remain where they are standing and report back the comments and ideas written on their paper. 3. Discuss the benefits of delaying a sexual relationship and how peoplw know when it is the right time for them to have sex. Ask the pupils what difficulties might be involved in making a choice. Emphasise that individuals should make choices that are right for them and shouldn't feel pressured into doing something they don't want to. Dispel myths e.g. everybody is doing it 4. Discuss other ways of showing someone that you care about them without having sex, e.g. verbal intimacy, taking part in shared interests, kissing 5. Discuss different ways of raising pressure to do things that you feel uncomfortable with in a relationship, e.g. saying no assertively, suggesting other things to do, explaining that you don't want to 6. Construct a problem page for a teenage magazine with letters and answers that show a range of relationship issues that young people experience.
 * Activities**
 * it shows that you really care about someone
 * Everybody else is doing it
 * If you don't, you'll get dumped for someone who will
 * It's fun and exciting
 * There's a risk of getting pregnant or getting a STD
 * You don't feel ready
 * You believe/ your faith teaches that you shouldn't have sex before you are married
 * You might be able to enjoy and take responsibility for sex more when you're older

Worksheets [|Girlfriends and boyfriends.pdf] [|Loving and being in love.pdf] [|Which floor do you want to stop on.pdf] Video VHS - Tell me about it (5x KS3 stories & dilemmas)
 * Resources that could support these activities, or can be used instead of:**